Most parents are concerned with how other people's reactions will affect their child's feelings. The underlying question seems to be 'how can my child accept himself if they encounter negative reactions in others to their limb deficiency?' Self acceptance means that we value ourselves as we are, with all our weaknesses and strengths, and regardless of them. It allows us to live, to enjoy and grow in spite of the frustrations and crises of life.

How then do you specifically help your child develop healthy attitudes towards themself? First of all, be clear on where your responsibility lies. You cannot feel your child's feelings for them, or live their life. Do not be over responsible, respond as best you can to their needs, and in doing so you provide the foundation on which they can build. Their needs are the same as they are for all children. Aside from the normal need for food, shelter, clothing and health care, your child needs warmth and affection - the external evidence of your love. They need education, recreation, friendship and respect for their individuality.

Life offers many opportunities for self development - allow your child to take advantage of them by neither over-protecting them or by demanding perfection.